For Students

Know MoreUniversity students who have experienced sexual violence often confide in and seek support from fellow students before accessing professional service providers. If a fellow student turns to you for support following an incident of sexual violence, your help could be an invaluable source of affirmation and comfort.

In order to be an effective support person, while also taking care of yourself, you may want to follow the peer support guidelines suggested below. Although some of these things might seem very simple, and each case of sexual violence is personal and unique, these guidelines will help you to ensure that a friend who has experienced sexual violence feels supported and in control—as much as possible—during this time of need.

  • Listen. Do not force students who have experienced sexual violence to say more than they are ready to, but remind them that you are there if they need to talk.
  • Affirm. Too often in our culture, those who have experienced sexual violence are blamed for what happened to them. Or, they are doubted and made to second guess their own instincts and experiences. If a student discloses sexual violence to you, make sure to convey that you believe him or her and let the student know that what happened was not deserved.
  • Help to foster a sense of safety and comfort. Experiencing sexual violence can compromise one’s sense of personal security. Places that used to feel familiar and safe may feel uncertain and dangerous. On a college campus, tasks like walking to class or going to the dining hall may feel daunting. Offer to accompany a student who has experienced sexual violence, making sure that he or she arrive safely. Also, offer to spend time with him or her to ward off loneliness.
  • Be a resource and encourage professional assistance. Although it is important to be emotionally supportive of a student who has experienced sexual violence, it is important to remember that you are not a doctor or therapist. If a student discloses sexual violence to you, make sure he or she is aware of all the resources available at Methodist University and in the wider community. Make sure students know that there are many people who have been trained to help them face what has happened.
  • Follow their lead. After you have informed the student about the resources available, let he or she choose which path to follow and which professionals to contact. It can be tempting to tell a student who has experienced sexual violence what he or she should do, but this will only intensify the feeling of disempowerment. Likewise, allow the student who has experienced sexual violence to disclose information about the experience in his or her own time and in his or her own way. Unless you suspect that your friend is seriously depressed or suicidal, do not disclose information he or she shared confidentially. Sexual violence can take away the victim’s ability to make decisions for themselves. It is important that support people help to restore this ability.
  • Take care of yourself. If you are struggling to deal with your own emotions about what happened to your friend, talk to someone who is trained to address these issues. Just as there are many people at Methodist University who can help victims of sexual assault, so too are there many resources available for friends of victims. If you need assistance, consider contacting the Center for Personal Development (910-630-7150), and/or the Office of Religious Life (910-630-7515), or talking to a RA (Residential Advisor).

 

Campus Resources Available:

Reporting Resources

Debra YeattsDr. William H. Walker, Vice President for Student Affairs & Dean of StudentsDr. Todd Harris
Ms. Debra Yeatts
Dr. William Walker
Dr. Todd Harris

Emergency Contacts

  • Methodist University Public Safety/Welcome Center, (910) 630-7098 (24 hours)
  • Methodist University Police, 7577 (24 hours)

Confidential Resources Available:

Medical Care

Lynetta GeddieDave Baggett
Ms. Lynetta Geddie
Director, Health Center
Mr. Dave Baggett, PA-C
Physician Assistant

Support Services

Dr. Deirdre JacksonValarie McCantsElizabeth WarrenRev. Kelli Taylor
Dr. Deirdre Jackson
Director/Counselor
Ms. Valarie McCants
Counselor
Ms. Elizabeth Warren
Counselor
Rev. Kelli Taylor
Chaplain
  • Methodist University Counseling Center: (910) 630-7150
  • Vice President for Religious Life & University Chaplain, Rev. Kelli Taylor: (910) 630-7515